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Preface
Vol. I Contents.
Prefatory Address
Chapter I
Chapter II
Chapter III
Chapter IV
Chapter V
Chapter VI
Chapter VII
Chapter VIII
Chapter IX
Chapter X
Chapter XI
Chapter XII
Chapter XIII
Chapter XIV
Chapter XV
Chapter XVI
Chapter XVII
Chapter XVIII
Chapter XIX
Chapter XX
Chapter XXI
Chapter XXII
Chapter XXIII
Chapter XXIV
Chapter XXV
Chapter XXVI
Chapter XXVII
Chapter XXVIII
Chapter XXIX
Chapter XXX
Chapter XXXI
Chapter XXXII
Chapter XXXIII
Chapter XXXIV
Chapter XXXV
Chapter XXXVI
Chapter XXXVII
Chapter XXXVIII
Vol. I Index
Vol. II Contents
‣ Chapter I
Chapter II
Chapter III
Chapter IV
Chapter V
Chapter IV
Chapter VII
Chapter VIII
Chapter IX
Chapter X
Chapter XI
Chapter XII
Chapter XIII
Chapter XIV
Chapter XV
Chapter XVI
Chapter XVII
Chapter XVIII
Chapter XIX
Chapter XX
Chapter XXI
Chapter XXII
Chapter XXIII
Chapter XXIV
Chapter XXV
Chapter XXVI
Chapter XXVII
Chapter XXVIII
Chapter XXIX
Chapter XXX
Chapter XXXI
Chapter XXXII
Chapter XXXIII
Chapter XXXIV
Chapter XXXV
Chapter XXXVI
Chapter XXXVII
Chapter XXXVIII
Chapter XXXIX
Chapter XL
Vol. II Index
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LADY MORGAN’S MEMOIR.




CHAPTER I.
FIRST YEAR OF MARRIED LIFE.

Having with difficulty won his wife, Sir Charles Morgan had to encounter the greater difficulty of making their married life answer the ardent promises and protestations with which he had invoked it. His was a more than ordinary hazardous choice. His wife, accustomed to unlimited flattery, general admiration and entire independence of action, to say nothing of the deference with which she was treated by every member of her own family circle, was very imperfectly prepared for the subordination and restraint of marriage. Her strong will and great determination of character had hitherto been virtues; henceforth, they bade fair to become inconveniences in her domestic life, whilst her entire control over her own resources withdrew from her husband that power of the purse, which, in govern-
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ments and in private life, is the most effective instrument of control. It required a rare mellowness of character and a remarkable combination of qualities to extract quiet domestic happiness from such perilous materials. Sir Charles had been a very ardent lover, but the probabilities seemed many, that he would be a disenchanted husband. The result, however, proved that there is no infallible judgment except that which is formed after the event! The marriage proved in all respects a remarkably happy one. Sir Charles was a man of a sweet and noble nature, generous, high-minded, entirely free from all meanness or littleness, tender-hearted and affectionate, with a vehement and passionate temper, excessively jealous of his wife’s affection, but not in the least jealous of her genius and success. He was the most enthusiastic of her admirers, the most devout believer in her powers of mind, acquirements and genius; but he was also a man of great firmness of character, strength of mind, and integrity of principle. There was nothing weak about his love for her; indeed, he was greatly her superior in solidity of character and soundness of judgment. He was rather indolent, had no ambition, and as little vanity or self-love as a man could have,—and be mortal. He had every quality in private life to ensure a woman’s respect; being upright, truthful, straightforward, reserved, and reticent. His very faults, and most of all, his sharp temper, gave him an advantage over his wife.
Lady Morgan held him in unbounded respect, and at the bottom was rather afraid of him; he had the qualities which rule a woman, and which all women
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love to find in a man. She could depend upon him for guidance and control, and that to a woman is more even than affection. He was not a man of genius, but he was a great deal wiser than his wife. Nevertheless, her strong individuality asserted itself; she had much influence with him, and whenever there was a conflict of inclination between them, she always got her own way. She loved society,—distractions,—to be in constant movement,—to see everything—to hear everything—to have incessant change of scene. Possessed of an unfailing flow of spirits, and constitutionally cheerful; she had an extremely good temper which, however, did not hinder her from being sometimes wilful and provoking. The result was, that their opposite qualities, working upon each other, and controlled by mutual good sense, produced the most agreeable effect. If she did not change his nature, she modified his tastes and his habits, so that they never went anywhere without each other, and as she could not live, except in society, he went into it with her; she could always succeed in getting him to do whatever she wished, or to go wherever she liked, though not without some grumbling and occasional protest. He kept her steady, and she kept him from stagnating into indolent repose.

The first year was very stormy, not without seasons of fine weather, but not “set fair.” Afterwards, the domestic atmosphere cleared, their mutual qualities adjusted themselves, and, like the people in the winding up of a fairy tale, “they lived happily ever after.” The works she wrote after her marriage take a different rank to those she wrote previously, and bear
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the impress of her constant intercourse with her husband’s sterling and highly cultivated mind. It has fallen to the lot of very few distinguished women to be so happily mated.

Miss Owenson did not come to her husband portionless; she had saved about five thousand pounds, the proceeds of her writings; this sum was settled upon herself, and it was stipulated in the marriage settlement that she was to have the sole and independent control over her own earnings, whilst the reversion of Sir Charles Morgan’s fortune was settled upon the daughter of his first marriage.

The following letters to Mrs. Lefanu, give an account of her early married life at Baron’s Court.

Lady Morgan to Mrs. Lefanu.
Baron’s Court,
February, 1812.

You, who have followed me through the four acts of my comedy, seem to cut me dead at the fifth, and leave me to the enjoyment of my own catastrophe without sympathy or participation; not a single couplet to celebrate the grand event, not even one line of prose to say “I wish you joy.” It is quite clear, that like all heroines, I no longer interest when I gain a husband.

Since you will not even ask me how I am, I will volunteer the information of my being as happy as being “loved up to my bent” (aye, and almost beyond
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it) can make me, and, indeed, so much is it true, “the same to-day, to-morrow, and for ever,” that I can give you no other notice of my existence than that miraculous one of a man being desperately in love with his own wife, and she “nothing loath.”

Though living in a palace, we have all the comfort and independence of home; besides bed-rooms and dressing-rooms, Morgan’s study has been fitted up with all the luxury of a joli boudoir by Lady Abercorn (who neither spared her taste nor purse on the occasion). It is stored with books, music, and everything that can contribute to our use and amusement. Here “the world forgotten, and by the world forgot,” we live all day, and do not join the family till dinner time, and as chacun a son goût is the order here, when we are weary of argand lamps and a gallery a hundred feet long in the evening—we retire to our own snuggery, where, very often, some of the others come to drink coffee with us. As to me, I am every inch a wife, and so ends that brilliant thing that was Glorvina.

N.B.—I intend to write a book to explode the vulgar idea of matrimony being the tomb of love. Matrimony is the real thing and all before but “leather and prunella.”

This chapter I dedicate to Bess. Sir Charles desires me to assure you of his highest consideration: an enthusiast in everything, he is a zealot as to talent, and one of your old letters has roused all his fanaticism in your favour; he longs as much to know you as I do to see you, et c’est beaucoup dire! for that, I fear, for a long time there is no chance.

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Lady Morgan to Mrs. Lefanu.
Baron’s Court.

I have just learned from Olivia that you are ill; it is quite too bad that you, who are so much to so many, should be so often laid up, while those who are nothing to nobody, are going about with health and spirits sufficient to bore and annoy all their acquaintances; but so it is in this best of all possible worlds! My little billet crossed your kind and delightful letter, which I have not answered just because I had nothing to say worth the trouble of poring your poor eyes over my illegible scribble; and next, because I keep writing to you in store, as children do their bonne bouche,—the best thing for the last.

A chance (studiously sought for) threw it in my way to speak of dear Tom to the Chancellor. He is himself a good old Christian, upon the good old plan, and the little sketch I gave of Tom as a primitive minister of a primitive religion, as one whose vocation seemed to have “come from above,” and yet as one “more skilled to raise the wretched than to rise,” seemed to please him. Shortly after, he asked me if he had not married a daughter of Dr. Dobbins!

I merely mention this to you, because the Chancellor has the disposal of the patronage of the Archbishop of Dublin, and that he is to be entirely guided by the fitness of persons to fill their stations, and not by interest or influence. He is a most excellent churchman, and not at all a man to rebuter any application
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made to him on just grounds. “On this hint” you may act.

Colonel Gore is your “slave and blackamoor.” The day he arrived here, in the midst of a dinner, silent and solemn as the dulness of bon ton could make it, he cried out, “Lady Morgan, I am under more obligations to your friend than to all the world besides.” “What friend?” “Why Mrs. Lefanu to be sure; she taught my Phillip to read Milton,” &c., &c.

I long to hear from you; by this I hope you have seen my dear Olivia; she is England mad, would we were all settled there. Here or there, partout où vous êtes, et partout où je suis, I must always be among the number of those who respect you most and love you dearest.

God bless you ever,
S. Morgan.

PS.—Poor, dear, excellent Bess is, I suppose, as usual, your nurse and companion. She is, indeed, the inestimable daughter of an inimitable mother, and in my opinion, her whole life has been active, useful, and of practical excellence. She is one of the sinners who devote themselves to the “nothingness of good works.”

The tone of the following letter is very much softened and subdued from the “saucy Arethusa” style of former tunes.

It will be seen that all the kindness and luxury
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with which she was surrounded did not prevent
Lady Morgan from wishing to have an independent home of her own.

Lady Morgan to Lady Stanley.
Baron’s Court, Newtown-Stewart,
April 28, 1812.

I never answer your dear, kind, welcome, and clever letters at the moment I wish to answer them (which is the moment they are read) both for your sake and my own, because I wish to delay the moment of bore to you, and to keep in view a pleasure for myself. To hold intercourse with you of whatever description, has always been to me a positive enjoyment since the first moment I saw you, and that was not the least happy moment of my life. I was then full of the spirits which create hope in the mind. I was beckoned on by a thousand bright illusions, and it was a delicious event to meet half way in my career such a creature as yourself. In short, my dear friend, our physical capabilities for receiving pleasure wear out rapidly in proportion to their own intensity, and those who, like me, see life through the dazzling prism of imagination long before they are permitted to enter it, must, like me, find the original infinitely inferior to the fiction; still I have no reason to complain. I have associated myself to one who feels and thinks as I do, and this is, or ought to be, the first of human blessings; but his thoughts and feelings are still of a higher tone—they are not qualified by that light vanity which brings my character down to the general level of hu-
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manity. In love he is
Sheridan’s Falkland, and in his views of things there is a melange of cynicism and sentiment that will never suffer him to be as happy as the inferior million that move about him. Marriage has taken nothing from the romance of his passion for me; and by bringing a sense of property with it, it has rendered him more exigent and nervous about me than before. All this is flattering and delightful, and yet I do not say with Richelieu, “C’est être bien à charge, que d’être trop aimé,” yet, for his sake, I would be almost contented to be less loved, because I should see him more happy. He admires the picture I have drawn of you, and often says “Of all the persons you have mentioned to me, Lady Stanley is the only woman I wish to know.”

You will laugh at this wife-like letter; but provided you do laugh, I am satisfied. Could you take a peep out of your secluded Eden at the vicissitudes and miseries of those who live in the world, you would hug yourself in your own “home-felt certainty” of peace, comfort, and competency. The worst of all human evils you never can have known—poverty! As Ninon says upon a gayer subject, “On peut s’en rapporter à moi.” I am, however, for the present, living upon fifty thousand pounds a year, and shall do so for another year if I choose; but although our noble hosts are everything that is kind and charming, we prefer a home of our own, be it ever so tiny. Since I wrote to you, we have lost the beautiful Countess of Aberdeen, Lord Abercorn’s favourite daughter. It was a heavy blow.

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I am delighted your winter has been cheered by the society of your new son-in-law, and the amiable Emma. My dearest Olivia comes here in June, if her health permits, and after that I must settle in England and she in Ireland. I am at work again; but with the sole view of making some money to furnish a bit of a house in London, which, coûte que coûte, we must have. My book will be a genuine Irish romance of Elizabeth’s day, founded on historic facts. I would not write another line, to add the fame of Sappho to my own little quota of reputation, did not necessity guide my worn out stump of a goose-quill. My imagination is exhausted, and those hopes and views which in the first era of life give such spring to mind, and such energy to thought, are all dead and gone. At present nothing would give me more pleasure than to meet you in London when we go there. We are daily expecting the arrival of Lord Aberdeen and his little daughters, and Lady Marian Hamilton, and shortly Lord and Lady Hamilton and their family, so we shall have a house full; but people are mistaken as to the pleasures of a large society in great houses—there is an inevitability about it that is a dead bore.

I long to hear how the dear little farm is going on, and all the improvements. Is the pig alive? is Poll as brilliant as ever, and Mrs. Jones wedded to her sentimental lover? And you? Do you walk about with the little black silk apron and feed the pets? Pray write to me, and soon—directly; this I ask in the honesty of earnest wishes. Sir Charles requests I will say something for him. What can I say, but that he is
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prepared to like you as much as he has already learnt to admire you, and so I am, as ever,

Yours, affectionately,
Sydney Owenson Morgan.

The genuine Irish romance that was to furnish the little house of our own in London was the O’Donnel. Lady Morgan happily changed her plan. Instead of an historical novel of the days of Queen Bess, founded on facts, she wrote a delightful sketch of the Ireland she knew so well.

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