Memoir of John Murray
John William Cunningham, to John Murray, 20 August 1822
Mr. Henry Drury was so good as to
communicate to me a request conveyed to you by Lord
Byron respecting the burial of a child in this church.
Mr. H. Drury will probably have also stated to you my
willingness to comply with the wish of Lord Byron. Will
you forgive me, however, for so far trespassing upon you (though a stranger) as
to suggest an inquiry whether it might not be practicable and desirable to
fulfil for the present only a part of his Lordship’s wish—by
burying the child, and putting up a tablet with simply its name upon the
tablet; and thus leaving Lord B. more leisure to reflect upon the character of
the inscription he may wish to be added. It does seem to me that whatever he
may wish in the moment of his distress about the loss of this child, he will
afterwards regret that he should have taken pains to proclaim to the world what
he will not, I am sure, consider as honourable to his name. And if this be
probable, then it appears to me the office of a true friend not to suffer him
to commit himself but to allow his mind an opportunity of calm deliberation. I
feel constrained to say that the inscription he proposed will be felt by every
man of
refined taste, to say
nothing of sound morals, to be an offence against taste and propriety. My
correspondence with his Lordship has been so small that I can scarcely venture
myself to urge these objections. You perhaps will feel no such scruple. I have
seen no person who did not concur in the propriety of stating them. I would
entreat, however, that should you think it right to introduce my name into any
statement made to Lord Byron, you will not do it without
assuring him of my unwillingness to oppose the smallest obstacle to his wishes,
or give the slightest pain to his mind. The injury which, in my judgment, he is
from day to day inflicting upon society is no justification for measures of
retaliation and unkindness.
Your obedient and faithful Servant,
John William Cunningham (1780-1861)
Evangelical clergyman educated at St John's College, Cambridge; he was rector of Harrow
(1811) and wrote a successful novel,
The Velvet Cushion (1814). He
was a friend of Lady Byron.
Henry Joseph Thomas Drury (1778-1841)
The eldest son of Joseph Drury, Byron's headmaster; he was fellow of King's College,
Cambridge and assistant-master at Harrow from 1801. In 1808 he married Ann Caroline Tayler,
whose sisters married Drury's friends Robert Bland and Francis Hodgson.